新年前的冥想Pause Before Reset the Clock – Being Another Restless 2015?
By Anthony Shi
我们需要的仅仅是更多的钱？马云 —— 阿里巴巴创始人，中国新首富以及双十一购物狂欢节的缔造者 —— 今年向媒体表示：“成为首富后我丝毫不感到快乐。人们开始争着抢着效力于你，仅仅是为了你兜里的钱。想当初，我在一间仅仅40平米的公寓中创办阿里巴巴时，那时我才是世界上最快乐的人。”
Literally, we people in this nation China is not gifted much with symbols such as imagination and relaxation. We are more found in the dictionary of dedication, perspiration, being shrewd and never getting behind. And these attributions lie deep in the way we work, raise a family and, of course, make prospection for the New Years ahead.
Remember a glimpse of stunning ‘APEC blue’ sky wiping off the so-called ‘Peking mist’ for quite a few days 2014? Both new phases were come up with by Chinese netizens in a slight irony of the temporally nice weather in Beijing during the summit. Surprisingly, Chinese leader Xi Jinping quoted the ‘APEC blue’ and made the frontal statement on tackling the environmental problem, which could not be assumed before. I could hardly but notice that the society as a whole is acquiring more sense of humor. It looks good, but more out of an impressure of helplessness from a broader view.
Symptoms are showcasing that more than ever we are getting restless, more problems are existent in the rapidly transforming society, and still, we want more.
Celebrating its 10 years anniversary, a travel & vacation booking website Qyer.com is gaining both explosive growth and controversy in China this year. The website name means ‘poor travel’. ‘One of my resolution in 2015 is to quit my job and travel around the world, even if I don’t have that much money but if I save a bit and take part-time job during the trip I can go more countries.’ Sylvie Chan, a Taiwanese girl is getting obsessive with this idea as she loves travelling but often with limited budget, so do over millions of young people in China nowadays from college students to neo-white collars.
What is the drive behind that tendency of travelling as much as possible, instead of obtaining a ‘real life near around’? Many of the elder generation would wonder but never explain. What’s more, young people nowadays may not only desire much in travelling, but also in buying more and more. The Black Friday in China – ’11.11’ shopping festival by T-mall this year, even quieter than the last couple of years, still beats the US Black Friday and the world this year by an astonishing sales record of RMB 54.1 billion for one day. It is almost twice as much as the record in 2013.
It is gradually clear that the society of China at the times is gaining a general psychology of blundering all the time. You can even observe that from the flippancy revealed by urban culture toward the new clodhopper citizens in China – the extremely popular songs this year ‘Skateboard shoes’ and ‘Little apple’ mocked by the pumped up kicks in the city, are mimic and naked irony which from deeper, show the uncertainty of the people in balancing the relationship between each other. And people turn all these into pointless lyrics and off-key tunes to cover up the unsafety.
Back to the issue about ‘we want more’, is that really an okay attitude faced with our lives, and our resolution for the New Year? The gap of different class getting bigger is the key problem we may be faced up with here. But most people choose to do nothing but obtaining the so-called rules supposed to be feedback to the unreasonable. When the housing is more expensive we pay more rents. When we have less free time we squeeze time and put our money into meaningless travel and escape. When the supermarket sells absurdly priced beef we wait till 11.11 and buy some online. When it gets higher we want more, and we are happy to do so.
It is sort of horrific having the idea that keeping these desire high would end up in things not controllable. The travelling young people would spare a free ride while they are embedding dangers toward themselves, the online shopping family finally owing the bank over millions, the people complaining about the unfairness while not making a change.
Do we need more money only? Jack Ma, the founder of Alibaba and the new richest in China, and the man who created the shopping extravaganza 11.11, stated to the media this year that it is not happy at all being the richest. ‘People start work their way around you only for one reason being, your money. I was the happiest man on earth when I was running a start-up Alibaba in an exactly 40 square meters apartment.’
Reviewing back to the resolution you are so sure about and determined to make the next year, would you consider it again? There is one finding that when people are being ambitious about everything and want to make a change fully in all ways, they would usually be ended up with little achievement, or much less impressive.
Here we suggest an attitude of focus, patience and calm down. Narrow down your ambition into work, family and YOUR life – what do you see that you value the most and what are the things that can make you truly happy? Follow with those value and your instinct and make no more than three resolution.
We cannot deny that in a times like what China is getting through we can strongly feel restless, which could easily turn to aimlessness and relentlessness. But it is a new year after all. We can still at this typical moment choose to pause a bit, reset the clock and make it right. Spend more time with yourself, treat it well and make it absorb the real sunshine you could sincerely enjoy – not the APEC blue, but the lapis sky in heart. And when you learn by the resolution of loving yourself, you’ll find it less difficult to balance the other resolutions that will finally turning into more positive feedbacks from whatever around you.
Can you maybe put one word honestly in your dictionary of resolution this year instead of ‘restlessness’: relaxation?