Parental Attitude Towards Family Education父母对家庭教育持有的态度
By Oasis Ho
No matter which country or nation, it is always a tradition to think that a child’s first school is his home and their parents as their first teachers. Family education like everything else, need to start with the basics.
The traditions start off with the basics. Having family education as a custom, both parents are divided to teach different things. The mother teaches their children things that will get them through everyday life like how to do housework, making their beds, keeping their rooms clean and keep themselves healthy. While the father normally teaches them with the basics of what the school will teach them like writing, spelling, and expanding their vocabulary. Parents often start this “family education” on their child’s early childhood because it’s always known that do not let the children lose at the starting line. This is quite understandable because most of the Chinese parents want their children to become ‘hidden tigers’ during their growth. It is interesting to find out such phenomenon: let the two-year-old Chinese children began to accept the “bilingual education”. Do parents really think their infants can understand all? Frankly, these parents may not expect that high but the very reason is that they don’t want to make their children left behind. Parents are thought to impose their expectation on their children but do most children fulfill that? The Chinese children are always under the protection of their parents. When some crisis occurs, the failure of their children makes parents feel helpless, angry and sad. They worry about everything from the child’s self-esteem and social development to their future success. The tradition of Chinese family education is clearly revealed.
In most of Chinese families, it is a tradition to be successful and to be socially active. Let’s take a look at some American parents. They prepare their kids for life with or without tradition. Not caring what other people would say that they tell their kids that life is what you show first. Not comparing their children with the fellows, the Americans think everyone is unique. Every child has many ways of being smart. They teach you how to be yourself. When a child is taught, in China you have rules. While in America, parents give their children more freedom and encouraging them to have an independent mind and to have a strong heart when facing challenges. For what a parent encourages can also change a child when developing his mind. When a child is taught to the Chinese ways of life, parents are more dominant, they want their place as parents to teach but in America, they treat their children as friends. Chinese parents care about the future way too much that when their child is studying all the time, they only take time to ask for if their child is attentive in class and after, carries on and forgets to ask how the child is and how everything is.
Chinese parents, take it easy to accompany your children during their growth. Why don’t change the traditional way of family teaching? Parents have an important role in helping their kids appreciate themselves and fulfill their potential. Children are influenced by their parents’ attitudes and beliefs, so they will benefit if their parents have a positive approach towards themselves and take an active interest in what they are learning at school instead of being pushed.
On the other hand, why don’t parents instill those kinds of values in their children: respect, kindness, honesty, courage, perseverance, self-discipline, compassion, generosity, dependability. Doing so will protect them from potentially negative societal influences and lay the foundation for them to become good citizens. We are not fulfilling our responsibilities as parents if we don’t try to instill solid morals in our children. Of course, this is often easier said than done.